In the last post we looked at how living in this age of information overload can easily pull us away from truly connecting with the people in our lives. I gave you some hints on how to bring your attention back to the person you’re with and so improve your communication and thus your relationship.
This week’s tip is to:
Have you ever been aware of a conversation where each of you took it in turns to talk about your own stuff? It’s an odd feeling, like two people standing centre stage and taking it in turns to act – but not really participating in the same play.
In order to be part of the “same play” we need to be able to engage in each other’s life experience. A great way to do this is to ask the person you’re with some follow-up questions.
Here some ideas for questions you can ask.
How do you feel about [fill in the blanks]?
Is that something that makes you feel happy/sad/safe/angry?
And then what did you do/say/think?
Asking these types of questions shows we care enough to step into the other person’s world, and truly want to understand how they are feeling.
Look out next week for the third tip on instantly improving your relationships. Did you find this tip on asking questions helpful? I’d love to hear your experiences with this. Join the conversation here.