In Tip One and Two, we looked at how paying full attention to someone, and taking time to ask them follow up questions will immediately improve the connection between you, and therefore be great for your relationship.
This third and last tip is to:
Express Your Heart
How often do you tell the people in your life how much they mean to you? Maybe you already say this to those people who are very close in your life, such as your partner or your children, or maybe you could add a little more to those relationships?
And, do you tell your friends how much their friendship means to you? Do you ever let your colleagues know how much you appreciate their efforts?
All too often we take each other for granted, not in a mean way, but because we forget how important it is to feel valued. We have the mistaken idea that other people automatically know how much we care, appreciate and admire them – but actually speaking these words to them will mean the world to them and your relationship will become ever stronger.
Take some time to consider the people in your life. Think about the specifics that you truly appreciate in them, the things you admire and cherish – then let them know!
Simple statements such as
- When you [fill in the blank] it really helps me to [fill in the blank] so thank you.
- One thing I really appreciate about our friendship is [fill in the blank].
- I admire the fact that you [fill in the blank].
These simple statements will immediately connect you to the other person because they’re positive affirmations – they strongly show the value of the relationship between you.
I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences on expressing your heart with the people in your life. Join the conversation here.
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